He said she was relentless about sharing her views on Toby's "sinful affliction," even after Toby asked her not to raise this subject every time they spoke. He said he was frightened - what if what she said was true? - and sad that their relationship has become so combative. I asked Toby what he thought about his mother's views of his sexuality. Toby sounded bleak when he described the Christian literature she regularly sent him about the evils of homosexuality and how gays were being plagued by AIDS as punishment from God. She also told him that he was going to get AIDS because he was gay. She told her son that being a homosexual was going to land him in hell unless he repented and changed his ways. She did not react well to the news, retreating into the condemning language of her church. Toby came out to his mother after he finished graduate school and moved to New York. Toby was an only child raised in the Midwest by a devout Baptist single mother who had been deserted by Toby's father shortly after Toby's birth. Ostrow and Shelby (2000) describe psychotherapy with men like Toby who use drugs to enable them to lose inhibitions and engage in fantasy sex that they might otherwise have difficulty engaging in without guilt or remorse. When I explored this passivity toward using condoms, he explained that he worked such long hours and so intensely that when he did have time off it was essential that he be able to stop thinking and just go a bit wild and lose control. It was clear that he was well informed about HIV transmission and about the risk he took of becoming infected by barebacking. But if the other fellow never brought up the topic of condoms, neither did Toby.
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If the other man wanted to use them, that was fine with him. Again, his attitude toward condom use was passive. On the weekends when Toby stayed home, he either met men in online chat rooms for sexual hookups or went to sex parties. Toby was sexually versatile but preferred to be the top. Toby almost never made a date to see any of these men a second time. But if the other man did not bring up the topic, Toby wound up going along with whatever the other man wanted to do sexually, even if it meant having UAI. If a sexual partner initiated the use of condoms for anal sex, Toby said he felt relieved and gladly used them. He said he never discussed HIV status with the men he went home with unless the other man initiated the discussion. Toby did not seek out barebacking, but he allowed it to happen if the other man wanted to do it. At the end of the night he would usually end up going home with someone he had just met. He said it helped him lose his inhibitions and cut loose on the dance floor. Typically, during those outings, he would take MDMA (Ecstasy) and smoke marijuana. He did have a group of people with whom he would go to clubs to dance a few times a month. Because of his intense focus on work, Toby had not taken the time to cultivate deep friendships.
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His last relationship ended during his final year of graduate school, after 2 years, and he had not had another partner in almost 10 years. A successful and ambitious architect, he worked exceptionally long hours to make partner in his firm.
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Toby is a white, 35-year-old, HIV-negative gay man who came to see me because of depression and loneliness. Octave, The Rules of the Game, Jean Renoir, 1939 Toby, a Passive Barebacker I didn't think it would take off enough for me to be able to make a second issue, but 9 issues and 3 calendars later, hundreds of models, and hundreds of thousands of followers on social media, Coitus seems to be a favourite for many and I'm excited to see where it can go."Ĭheck out the magazine, blog, Instagram, Pantelis's Instagram, and calendar."The terrible thing in this world is that everyone has his reasons." It was to be an escapism and a fantasy land for everyone who would follow my work and the magazine through the years. The magazine is a celebration of youth and male sexuality featuring some of the most beautiful boys in the world. In a sense its a 'zine made from my bedroom, but I knew I needed it to look and feel like much more than just a 'zine. As someone who moved away from home and got to London some years before, I needed a reason to be here, as the pressure of any artist to create was getting to me. "In 2009 I had the idea of starting something.
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Pantelis, the photographer and creator tells us: No models were harmed in the creation of these images. There is a juicy Calendar and loads of online content to make your eyes scream with delight. It has the most streamlined of formats: simply an introduction to new talent in the male modeling pool. Coitus magazine founder and photographer Pantelis created the magazine a few years ago.